Partiality – Parents should stop that immediately!

This might sound offensive to most parents, but this is a fact of life. Most parents show partiality, in one form or the other. This is especially true in the households with more than one child. The first born might do well in everything but the second born is not so good at certain things, and vice versa. This might be true or might not be, because in my opinion, no one is better than the other. This might seem like a cliché, but that’s very true.

 One child might be very good in studies, but the other might be the best when it comes to sports. But, since parents think studies is everything and sports is not the way to go, you constantly harp your child about how his or her sibling is being a good child and they need to start doing the same. Parents might think they are encouraging their child to do things right, but they have no idea how much their words hurt their child. They did achieve something, and their parents are not giving them the same level of recognition that they gave to their sibling. This might not be received very well by the children.

This is how sibling feuds and jealousy comes up. Parents often wonder about this too, but what they don’t realise is that they are the reason for half of the fights. Siblings mostly fight over their parent’s attention.

Parents often say that all their children are the same for them, that they love them on the same level. If that is the case, why not show it? Because frankly, no one knows what you feel until you show them. Be proud of whatever your child is and whatever they do. When you compare, they might try to copy what their sibling did, and they might or might not succeed in that, but that doesn’t matter. What matters is that they left something that they love to do just because their parents forced them to. This will be an everlasting thought on their mind, and it might lead to many of the future problems between the teens and their parents. Therefore, parents must try to see uniqueness in all of their children, and not try to create a carbon copy just because they think that is how they can be successful.